The Abstract Beauty Of Relationships And Dating

Dear Brothers and Sisters, The idea of dating, and the entire concept of dating that has been spewed by the average american teenager isn't beneficial, nor healthy, in my opinion. Meet, flirt, date, have sex, argue, break up, have a broken heart, and then start the entire process all over again. This process of "dating" doesn't appease me too much... I would much rather a wholesome, satisfying, and long-lasting relationship, wouldn't you? I would think most people would, the question isn't whether or not they want that, the question is, how? I, personally, don't know how to exactly. I'm not perfect, I don't have the answers, nor should I, but I know someone who does, and I think He will help me attain the wisdom as to what to do when it comes to dating. I've come to conclusion that for me it would be best to wait at least a year before even considering dating a girl. This reason isn't because "girls suck!" or "I'm broke and can't afford it", it is for two reasons, 1) the girl I wanna date is away at college, so that sorta helps, and 2) because I'm not ready spiritually or emotionally. Me in a relationship can be summed up in four words, "I suck at relationships." I have a habitual sinner, which means I lie, manipulate, and am extremely impatient, I think to some degree all men are. But! I have been completely forgiven by The General, and am free from the sin, doesn't mean I'm not gonna sin anymore though. My history in dating shows that I have been successful in only relationship, and I've noticed that that relationship was the only relationship that had The General at the focus point of it. All of my other relationships have been focused on self desire, greed, and even to some extent, self image. If the pattern I see is correct, having God at the focus of relationship strengthens, and even extends them. Now I've recently come to realization that having God at the focus point is important, nontheless, nessicary, but it's a lot harder to do than it is to say you're going to do. That is why I, personally, have decided to take a year and focus on my own relationship with God, strengthen that bond before moving into another one. The fact that the girl I desire to be with is away helps tremendously, but, it is my conviction and what I will do. God Bless